Many people out there do not know how to love or to receive love without running from it and it puzzles the hell out of me on why they would run from a person who is only trying to love them and support them in what they do. I have often wondered if it is due to them being afraid of being hurt or afraid to feel happy?
We have all loved and have had our hearts broken and torn out, it is a natural process for living, I have had my heart broken several times and it takes time to heal your spirit and heart so you can be ready to love again, when it happens open up to it, do EXHALE give it all that you have, you never know this might be the one, but if you hold back, you will never know if you have met your soul mate.
Songs we listen to bring back memories for most of us and make us smile about the love we shared with that person that we are no longer with and it is OK to reminiscence, however just because for whatever reason you did not work out with that person do not take it out on the new love in your life.
Listen with your heart and soul when you have conversations with the new person in your life, let them explain to you what they want and don’t want in a new relationship. Listen to their dreams and their plans and if you can support them and stand by them go for it.
Sometimes after a few months a person gets stage fright and all of a sudden finds fault in everything about the relationship and wants to walk away from it, weigh the odds, if they are so ready to walk away now what about down the line will they walk away for good?
We all have good and bad sides and we all know we are not perfect, but that should not really matter if you are both perfect for each other. When I say perfect for each other, that does not mean that your friends like him/her or your family it helps however they are not living your life so you have to do what makes you happy and if that person makes you happy go for it. You cannot stop your heart from falling in love with the person that you are to be with, it may take years to find that one person that was made only for you, when you find them you will know.
The movie the Way We Were always comes to my mind, they both loved each other so much ,but their love was not strong enough to keep them together, but through the years the love never died even though they were with other people, they were never totally with that other person. I also think that if the movie was a bit longer they would have gotten back together and lived the rest of their life out. It does take work to keep a relationship, but it should not feel like a 9 to 5 job, if it does maybe he/she is not the one.